Oh, Mary Pierce, You are a brave woman! You can write about your difficult situation. I don't know what I can do in this situation, which will soon be in my family. Usually, the reading is my calming tool. I am always with a book. But holding your husband's hand is much, much better.
I love the title of your post. Different circumstances but often I find myself putting needless pressure on myself. For a while I thought it was hereditary as my mom was the same way. I am a list maker. This week instead I went outside and pulled weeds two mornings. I enjoyed it. Trying to downsize my shoulds and doing something for me.
Sorry to hear your are going through all of that. On the brightside. I'm enjoying your book "On the Edge" I'm about 3/4 way through. I have 3 more of your books to read next! I put them on my Amazon wish list for my birthday and Christmas.
You write in blank verse (and even rhyme) when writing paragraphs! Some examples:
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Life is so serious right now,
hubby’s cancer being no joke.
I feel dull and dreary,
doggedly slogging through my days.
I worry about the future,
about being alone and old.
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Wise self reminds me,
Acceptance is the key
to ending your own misery.
“Accept” as in “allow.” Allow as in
“don’t have to like it, but let it be
what it is.”
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What if I accept/allow
that this is how life is right now?
Allow the worry,
the dull, the dreary,
the dogged slogging.
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And if it doesn’t get done,
so what? The world will continue to turn,
the universe will continue on its course.
I do my thing, but it doesn’t matter.
My writing may be fun,
entertaining, or interesting.
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Sorry for the long comment of (mostly) your own writing, but this is poetry! I hope you can continue to live in the moment and see the good in every day. Lord knows it's something I need to work on.
Alexander, thank you so much for taking time to read my post and for your very thoughtful reply. I appreciate connecting with you here. Wishing you a wonderful week! 💜
I’ve been in your shoes. My husband died of cancer when he was 59. I was 52. I was able to spend the last month of his life at the hospital or at home with him. We had hospice. I was blessed to be by his side when he took his last breath. I was devastated and for a long time I was angry at God! Through counseling with a Christian therapist, I was able to work through my anger, and accept the situation. This was 24 years ago. After six years, I remarried briefly, and I have been alone again for the last ten years. I could go on, but I think you’re being in the moment, spending what precious time you have left with your husband. May God bless you both.
Carol, your note touches my heart. You've survived such difficulty and come through it all. You give me hope.❤️ Thank you for taking the time to share your story. 🙏
Mary, there is so much clarity in the way you see things. I wish you and your husband much more hand holding.
Thank you, Rod. Your encouragement is appreciated! 🙏
😊
Oh, Mary Pierce, You are a brave woman! You can write about your difficult situation. I don't know what I can do in this situation, which will soon be in my family. Usually, the reading is my calming tool. I am always with a book. But holding your husband's hand is much, much better.
Oh, thank you Larisa. Your comment touches my heart. ❤️ Take good care.
Thank you, Mary, for your attention to answering all of us in such a difficult situation. God bless you even though I don't believe in god.
I love the title of your post. Different circumstances but often I find myself putting needless pressure on myself. For a while I thought it was hereditary as my mom was the same way. I am a list maker. This week instead I went outside and pulled weeds two mornings. I enjoyed it. Trying to downsize my shoulds and doing something for me.
Amazing how satisfying weed pulling can be. Thanks for reading and commenting, Monica. Hope you have a lovely, misery -free week! 😊
Sorry to hear your are going through all of that. On the brightside. I'm enjoying your book "On the Edge" I'm about 3/4 way through. I have 3 more of your books to read next! I put them on my Amazon wish list for my birthday and Christmas.
You write in blank verse (and even rhyme) when writing paragraphs! Some examples:
------------------------
Life is so serious right now,
hubby’s cancer being no joke.
I feel dull and dreary,
doggedly slogging through my days.
I worry about the future,
about being alone and old.
----------------
Wise self reminds me,
Acceptance is the key
to ending your own misery.
“Accept” as in “allow.” Allow as in
“don’t have to like it, but let it be
what it is.”
-------------------
What if I accept/allow
that this is how life is right now?
Allow the worry,
the dull, the dreary,
the dogged slogging.
-------------
And if it doesn’t get done,
so what? The world will continue to turn,
the universe will continue on its course.
I do my thing, but it doesn’t matter.
My writing may be fun,
entertaining, or interesting.
--------------------
Sorry for the long comment of (mostly) your own writing, but this is poetry! I hope you can continue to live in the moment and see the good in every day. Lord knows it's something I need to work on.
Alexander, thank you so much for taking time to read my post and for your very thoughtful reply. I appreciate connecting with you here. Wishing you a wonderful week! 💜
Hugs
Thank you, rena.😌
I’ve been in your shoes. My husband died of cancer when he was 59. I was 52. I was able to spend the last month of his life at the hospital or at home with him. We had hospice. I was blessed to be by his side when he took his last breath. I was devastated and for a long time I was angry at God! Through counseling with a Christian therapist, I was able to work through my anger, and accept the situation. This was 24 years ago. After six years, I remarried briefly, and I have been alone again for the last ten years. I could go on, but I think you’re being in the moment, spending what precious time you have left with your husband. May God bless you both.
Carol, your note touches my heart. You've survived such difficulty and come through it all. You give me hope.❤️ Thank you for taking the time to share your story. 🙏
Yes, hold your husband's hand and enjoy the moments you have.
❤️❤️❤️